Mar
1
2010
Just like anything in life, there is always the first step and a first move. For us, setting up a blog is our 1st time; writing about our life will be our first step. We read blogs often, especially our daughter’s blog. She is thousands of miles away studying at oversea U, we get excited reading her blog about her life at the U, but we never imagine we will start a blog ourselves. Our 1st Blog is about our journey of love and marriage. After all we are in the business of love.
One thought that came to my mind was the day when I took the 1st step to ask out for a movie date (that was a long time ago). It was difficult and kind of embarrassing. My mind was just filled with so many what if. What if she rejects my offer? What if she tells others about my advances? There were just so many what if…
Well! Our love story began in 1981. You see up until that point, we were colleagues and we hardly talk with each other as our job didn’t require us to interact much. I had never really noticed her until one day during a tea break she shared a funny joke that got all the colleagues laughing. That joke really caught my attention and changed the history of our lives. I began to realize this petite & demure lady is pretty humorous. I began to develop an interest in her & was looking for an opportunity to date her but never had the courage to take the first step.
Making the first move took tremendous courage. I am glad I did. I plucked up much courage to ask for her telephone number and spoke to her at length on the phone. Finally I asked if she likes watching movies and her answer was no. I was stuck…now what!!! Fortunately I never take no for an answer, I continued to pursue and convinced her to watch a romance movie called the Blue Lagoon. She agreed and that was the start of our love story.
So talk about taking the first step, the initial difficulty turn out to be a great blessing of my life – to eventually marry someone I love and treasure for more than 26 years.
Lesson learnt : My encouragement to all the single guys out there, if you like someone in your educational institution, office, or any social circle, go for it! All you risk is a no. If you persist, she may relent. Take courage and make the first move. For those who are on the receiving end, be gracious to those who approach you. Give yourself some room to make a friend. If you really don’t like the guy, reject the offer with grace and respect. Be mindful that the person who approaches you has to put in a lot of courage to make the move.
It was certainly not love at first sight. I had noticed other guys but not him. My kind of guy would be someone who is lanky like my father who I adored. At that time, seemed plump to me & he had hair like a lion’s mane except it was parted at the centre. His teeth needed some major dental work. Maybe I accepted him because I liked his sincerity and the way he talked to me. It seems to break down the barrier of looks.
There were better looking guys who were interested but I chose him mainly because I liked his sincerity, honesty and persistence. I felt I could trust him and I chose to believe in him and his potential. You know what? I was right!!.Making a decision to develop this relationship with and marrying him turned out to be the best decision I ever made in my life.
We married after less than a year of courtship mainly because he was selected to be transferred to work in America for a period of time. We rushed into marriage so that we could be together because the thought of separation was too painful to bear. Since we were of marriageable age, why not?
We have been through thick and thin together throughout our marriage and looking back, if not for the support we gave to each other we won’t be where we are today. We believe in each other and are always supportive of each other regardless of success or failure. How do we move from a total stranger, not much liking for each other to one that is inseparable? We will share with you more about our success story in the days ahead.
Lesson learnt : Dear singles out there, don’t be too quick to write off someone who is keen to know you, just because you don’t have the “love” feeling initially. Give yourself time to get to know him. As you listen with your heart, you will begin to appreciate and understand him better. Love is an emotional connection. It will slowly geminate and grow over time when you allow yourself to be transparent. For those who are on the “pursue” side, be patient and approach her with sincerity and gentleness. Give her some room to reflect and consider, don’t be too pushy. If you really hit a wall, don’t be discouraged. Most importantly, don’t give up and close up. The greatest harm you do to yourself is to give up trying. Like we always tell our clients, all you need is one good/right person.
Singles these days stress so much on “Chemistry”. Did we start off with that “chemistry”? What is this so called “chemistry” that got many people excited about? Well! We will tell you more about this as we “blog” along. Stay tuned.
Just like anything in life, there is always the first step and a first move. For us, setting up a blog is our 1st time; writing about our life will be our first step. We read blogs often, especially our daughter’s blog. She is thousands of miles away studying at oversea U, we get excited reading her blog about her life at the U, but we never imagine we will start a blog ourselves. Our 1st Blog is about our journey of love and marriage. After all we are in the business of love.
One thought that came to my mind was the day when I took the 1st step to ask out for a movie date (that was a long time ago). It was difficult and kind of embarrassing. My mind was just filled with so many what if. What if she rejects my offer? What if she tells others about my advances? There were just so many what if…
Well! Our love story began in 1981. You see up until that point, we were colleagues and we hardly talk with each other as our job didn’t require us to interact much. I had never really noticed her until one day during a tea break she shared a funny joke that got all the colleagues laughing. That joke really caught my attention and changed the history of our lives. I began to realize this petite & demure lady is pretty humorous. I began to develop an interest in her & was looking for an opportunity to date her but never had the courage to take the first step.
Making the first move took tremendous courage. I am glad I did. I plucked up much courage to ask for her telephone number and spoke to her at length on the phone. Finally I asked if she likes watching movies and her answer was no. I was stuck…now what!!! Fortunately I never take no for an answer, I continued to pursue and convinced her to watch a romance movie called the Blue Lagoon. She agreed and that was the start of our love story.
So talk about taking the first step, the initial difficulty turn out to be a great blessing of my life – to eventually marry someone I love and treasure for more than 26 years.
Lesson learnt : My encouragement to all the single guys out there, if you like someone in your educational institution, office, or any social circle, go for it! All you risk is a no. If you persist, she may relent. Take courage and make the first move. For those who are on the receiving end, be gracious to those who approach you. Give yourself some room to make a friend. If you really don’t like the guy, reject the offer with grace and respect. Be mindful that the person who approaches you has to put in a lot of courage to make the move.
It was certainly not love at first sight. I had noticed other guys but not him. My kind of guy would be someone who is lanky like my father who I adored. At that time, seemed plump to me & he had hair like a lion’s mane except it was parted at the centre. His teeth needed some major dental work. Maybe I accepted him because I liked his sincerity and the way he talked to me. It seems to break down the barrier of looks.
There were better looking guys who were interested but I chose him mainly because I liked his sincerity, honesty and persistence. I felt I could trust him and I chose to believe in him and his potential. You know what? I was right!!.Making a decision to develop this relationship with and marrying him turned out to be the best decision I ever made in my life.
We married after less than a year of courtship mainly because he was selected to be transferred to work in America for a period of time. We rushed into marriage so that we could be together because the thought of separation was too painful to bear. Since we were of marriageable age, why not?
We have been through thick and thin together throughout our marriage and looking back, if not for the support we gave to each other we won’t be where we are today. We believe in each other and are always supportive of each other regardless of success or failure. How do we move from a total stranger, not much liking for each other to one that is inseparable? We will share with you more about our success story in the days ahead.
Lesson learnt : Dear singles out there, don’t be too quick to write off someone who is keen to know you, just because you don’t have the “love” feeling initially. Give yourself time to get to know him. As you listen with your heart, you will begin to appreciate and understand him better. Love is an emotional connection. It will slowly geminate and grow over time when you allow yourself to be transparent. For those who are on the “pursue” side, be patient and approach her with sincerity and gentleness. Give her some room to reflect and consider, don’t be too pushy. If you really hit a wall, don’t be discouraged. Most importantly, don’t give up and close up. The greatest harm you do to yourself is to give up trying. Like we always tell our clients, all you need is one good/right person.
Singles these days stress so much on “Chemistry”. Did we start off with that “chemistry”? What is this so called “chemistry” that got many people excited about? Well! We will tell you more about this as we “blog” along. Stay tuned.
Jul
5
2009
Romance games have been present since the early era and couples have tried to keep the love sizzling and kicking in their relationship by engaging into fun (and even a little naughty) activities together. It’s always best when you and your girlfriend find time to unwind and get together for romance games so that you both can be relieved of stress, and the best part is, you’re even making your bond much stronger and more exciting. Below are a few romance games for you and your girlfriend you should definitely try now. Romance should never take a back seat in a relationship — it’s what keeps the passion burning.
- * Kissing games. Bet on something and reward each other with hot lingering kisses. Or better yet, start this little kissing game — tease each other to kiss and the first one to yield to the temptation loses. Try your creative kissing techniques as well and get ready for the fireworks!
- * Seduction games. Strip games are one of the best seduction romance games for you and your girlfriend. Keep your bedroom sessions sizzling by playing poker, chess, boggle or scrabble — that’s what we call getting interactive! Be adventurous and try new things with your lover everyday.
- * Public Display of affection. Get naughty and do it in public! Steal kisses while doing the grocery or on your way to the park. Kiss passionately while no one’s looking or have footsie in a restaurant — this game for very thrill-seeking lovers who can have fun while building sexual tension. So game on! Do you still feel the romantic vibe kicking in? Do you still want the complete list of hot sizzling romance games for two?
Jul
3
2009
How to Tell if a Guy Likes you – Five Signs He’s Interested
Author: Tonja Weimer
How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?
Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:
1. He tells someone
Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you’re from. He is trying to act like he’s “just asking” but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He’s hoping it does.
2. The look
He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, “that look” he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.
3. The conversation
Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He’s moving in to the ultimate question, which is: “Are you seeing anyone.” He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is “No.” Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn’t ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.
4. He appears unexpectedly
He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, “Oh, hi,” is his way of saying, “I don’t want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you.” If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.
5. EVERYONE likes you
Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn’t he like you? Of course he does. If you don’t have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won’t matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.
These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.
Do you want to know more secrets about how to attract men? Do you know how to dress, what to say, what to do, and the body language to use when you go out? Do you know the 5 steps to take to meet any guy anywhere?
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Tags: Act, Ask Question, Casual Interest, Five Signs, Imagination, Met, Moving, Mutual Friend, People, Smile, Toes, Weimer, Wishful Thinking | 
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Comments (0) Jun
30
2009
I prefer arranged marriage!
It is just a hassle to find a date, to date, to breakup, to spend money, to repeat your history, your story, all over again. This routine can go on for years and years. But then you realize that you are kind of old and start to rush into some sort of relationship and just get it over with. Just get marries somehow.
Dating or getting married is also a pressure and a hidden pressure to all Gals.
I think the best thing that has happened in the internet age is that we can do the blind date openly but secretly on the web.
Openly as in you can see each other without seeing each other. Secretly, you can dig more details without the need to open your mouth.
However, it is kind of scary at times to find someone on the web, you never know who he is, why he is there, is he real etc.
Here is my top 10 list of why gals like online dating:-
1) Affordability - Online dating is extremely affordable. You can meet millions of people in the comfort of your home, and it will cost you less than if you were to go out to any hang out zone just once a month. Ditch the over priced brews and low interaction lifestyle you might be use to and take a look at all the options online. You just might be pleasantly surprised.
2) The Entire World is at Your Fingertips – You can literally be in Asia and date someone who is in Europe. There is literally no boundary, no obstacle to getting to know an array of different people. You can connect with anyone who has a computer and see how it goes. The opportunities of online dating are endless in this sense.
3) Improved security measures - Online dating continues to become a safer practice due to the numerous sites that now institute background checks on all prospective users. You can browse through individuals without fear.
4) Compatibility check - You and others can normally specify that needs or hobbies, or any other appropriate attribute that you prefer. Narrowing down the possibilities is a luxury you can now enjoy.
5) Convenience - Time can be an issue for some , online dating solves this problem, they can go online whenever it is convenient for them. You are only a click away and whenever you want to go on is entirely up to you.
6) Shy People Can Hook-up Too - If you are too shy to go out and meet people, dating online allows you to say things to individuals that you would normally be too scared to. It’s a great way for you to loosen up and really allow yourself to be yourself without worrying about saying something dumb.
7) Less Confrontations & Games – You do not have to worry about confrontations, because there won’t be any! Lets say you are in a bar or just out anywhere and you get approached by an individual that seems interested in you. At this point you may become uncomfortable and the situation may become awkward to have to tell the person that you aren’t interested in them. Often times, certain individuals just do not get the hint, and they simply refuse to take no for an answer. A great advantage of online dating is that when you are online chatting to others, you can just simply let someone know with a quick e-mail that you are not interested in them. They can then be blocked from contacting you and you can go on to chatting with others.
Fear of Rejection - Online dating is a no fear ground, with no need for anxiety about your looks, personality or any other crutch you feel you have. You will also never have the need to sneak out the back door of a restaurant after finding out your blind date had exaggerated certain characteristics, and ignored mentioning some ghastly others. Not everything is about looks and I assure you that when you start online dating you will see for yourself that falling in love with the person as a whole is much more satisfying.
9) Spend Less Money Getting to Know Someone - When it comes to going out or dating, your looks are of major importance. Women spend hours rummaging through their closets, trying on outfit after outfit while modeling in front of their mirror only to find something wrong with the way they look. This can be eliminated by online dating! You do not have to worry about getting dressed up and looking your best, because you are simply chatting. You can wear whatever you want, and feel comfortable in the convenience of your own home.
10) Know them Before the First Real Date – It is nearly impossible to find out everything about someone that you have just met, especially if your first meeting is in a loud place such as a bar or club. In these places, you really never have the opportunity to converse on a deeper level. Internet dating allows you to take all of the time you want when it comes to getting to know the individual before setting a day to meet. Some people might meet right away if they feel comfortable, while others may wait.
